
Bryan Golden
Running on Empty
Just like your car, you can run low on fuel. You can feel depleted mentally, physically, or both. If you don’t fill your car’s gas tank when running on empty, you’ll run out of fuel and your engine will stop.
When you are depleted, you feel you can’t take another step forward. You are experiencing mental and physical exhaustion. Taking just a small break provides an opportunity to get some of your energy back.
If you don’t fill your mental and physical tanks, your performance will stall. Symptoms of running on empty include irritability, tension, stress, lack of concentration, decreased motivation, fatigue, and lack of direction.
You would never consider filling your car’s gas tank with sand. Doing so would completely ruin your engine. Likewise, don’t ever fill your mental or physical tank with sand through substance abuse, or any type of destructive behavior. This strategy quickly worsens any circumstances.
When running on empty, never act out of desperation. There is always a positive strategy for filling your tank. Decisions made when desperate tend to be short sighted and flawed. Desperation taints your perception by distorting your view of reality.
Don’t develop a victim mentality. Blaming other people or circumstances when you find yourself starting to run on empty accomplishes nothing. This type of external focus prevents you from taking the positive actions necessary to fill your tank.
Here are some effective, positive ways to fill your tank when running on empty. Start by being proactive. You are in control and responsible for the action you take. Do what’s required to fill up your tank so you can keep going.
Strive to fill your tank with positive energy, not negative. Look for the positive aspect in all situations. It may be tough to find, but there is usually something positive there. Focusing on the positive keeps you from making circumstances worse. Taking small steps forward is what matters. The size of each step is irrelevant.
Laughing is good for you. A sense of humor helps you recharge while reducing stress and anxiety. There is a humorous aspect to most situations. Look for the humor in every day situations.
Set boundaries. Learn to say no to discretionary activities which drain you. These activities are destructive because they accomplish nothing positive, while detracting from the time you could use pursuing your goals.
Decline participating in these endeavors without using the word “no.” Instead, thank the person asking you to participate before indicating that you must decline due to previous commitments. Each time you do this, you add fuel to your tank.
When dealing with an energy draining problem, focus on finding effective solutions. Dealing with only symptoms robs you of energy without correcting anything. As a result, you become increasingly frustrated. For example, if there is water dripping from your ceiling because of a hole in the roof, placing a bucket to catch the water doesn’t fix the problem.
Eliminate toxic relationships which can quickly empty your tank. These one-way relationships involve people who take from you without contributing anything in return. These people are complainers, whiners, and naysayers, who make you cringe whenever you have to interact with them. Instead, avoid interacting with toxic people. Don’t be rude. It’s OK to make an excuse by using previous commitments or letting them know that you are too busy to connect with them.
Stay connected with how empty your tank is running. Don’t wait until you are stalled out to take corrective action. Keeping fuel in your tank prevents burnout. It’s a lot easier driving your car to a gas station than walking miles with a gas can.












